Photo by Jamie Plain
Tell us about yourself.
I am the principal at College View Middle School. My wife, Lauren, and I have two kids, Haddon (10) and Evie (7). We enjoy spending time as a family whether that be taking trips, playing games, sports, fishing, or anything fun. We are full throttle with the demands of sports and extracurricular activities. I also may have a slight obsession with collecting sneakers.
How do you find work/life balance as a principal, husband and dad?
By leaning on my faith. I always strive to devote more time to my faith, which keeps me grounded and moving in a positive direction. I’ve realized that my faith is the key element to helping me be the best version of myself so I can be a good role model to children. Self-care is vital and I look to achieve this by attending to my physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. I enjoy exercise/working out to help with recharging. By staying healthy and fit I’m able to be active with my kids and it helps me counter the stressors of my career. I have to set boundaries, especially with email notifications. I prioritize my family time and love coaching my kids’ baseball/softball teams. It is my escape.
What advice do you have for other parents?
As an educator over the last 15 years there are some pieces of advice that I have found valuable. Be present with your kids, listen to them, communicate
with them, and let them know they are worthy of your attention. Be consistent and patient. Eyes are always watching how you react and respond. Lead by example and model behaviors you want to instill in your child. Be involved but also allow opportunities for your child to be independent. Life skills are essential, especially empathy. Show grace toward yourself and understand it is normal to second guess your decisions. This parenting thing is quite difficult. Lastly, take in each moment and make some memories!
As a principal and dad, what do you want other parents to know?
Without getting into too much detail, as a principal and dad, I get to be who I needed when I was younger. Everything I do as a dad and school leader revolves around this belief. My upbringing taught me compassion and empathy for those whose circumstances are out of their control. I have a career where I get to connect with students and be a positive role model. I really enjoy working with kids and I get to do this around the clock. There is no greater joy than to watch a child achieve even the smallest feat and know that you have played a part in that.
It is ok for your child to fail and make mistakes. We can use all circumstances as a teachable moment. We should help them build resiliency and gain confidence when they face adversity. Celebrate their accomplishments and minimize their failures. Grace and kindness go a long way as we are all human. If I ever have an interaction with your child I will do my absolute best to make them feel awesome!